Tuesday, February 19, 2019

I Quit Watching Football Because It Harms Players. Can I Still Keep Up With My Team?

I've never been a sports fan, and for the past 30-plus years, fitness-oriented, even getting certified as a personal trainer at one point. On the other hand, I grew up playing, informally as a boy, many sports, and I can still enjoy watching almost anything, even the barbaric. That said, being a fan is not particularly healthy, but if you insist on being a follower and watcher, one could choose something not harmful to its participants, or even better, something that is life-enhancing for the payers, and maybe for yourself, if you decided to be a participant.


A Hillbilly and a Survivalist Show the Way Out of Trump Country


I've read Educated by Westover, so one immediately realizes that, of course, institutions saved her, although the people she left behind would strongly disagree. Westover's isolated Mormon parents hated all manner of organization, even the Mormon church itself, not just the government and medicine, and Tara had to leave that backward culture, to embrace education and academia, to finally grow. Nothing has changed. We still see the people of that world as backward, and the only way forward as leaving it behind.



@Terry McKenna - I can empathize, since I have a similar story, my father died when I was 12, my sister 10, back in 1972, left with a stay-at-home mother with little real-world skill. We received Social Security and VA benefits until we were 21 or so, eventually curtailed by Reagan, but they kept the family middle class - my mother still worked 50+ hours per week, first as a clerk and then later as a manager of a local store - both my sister and I graduating from college and attending grad school. Both of us have six-figure incomes, are property owners, and presumably pay fairly high taxes.

Without that support, who knows where we would be now? When I hear about someone giving back, I can only think of the government, along with a few supportive elders. Rather than the state being a creator of dependency, it freed us to develop into educated, employed individuals. But maybe that's the problem. Republicans, with their love of authority and fear of change, need the poor to be poor, to justify their moralism...



@Mary Brooke Baria - Have you heard of the success that cities have been having with giving the homeless homes? Part of the problem of being down is that the requirement that they climb out before they can move on likely makes the holes they are in bigger, as they struggle with the hole. Once they can get a hand out of the hole, with some assistance moving forward they very likely will be good to go, on their own.


The Joy of the Junk Drawer

Acquiring doesn't feel nearly as good as the thinking and planning that goes into deferred purchases. If all your purchasing is short-term, then you will need a continual refresh on your consumption, and even then, it will often be met with a feeling of loss, as people often overestimate how much pleasure they will derive from something. With items like vacations and purchases, the planning and thinking will give you most of the pleasure, without the downside of the quick rush. As for pleasure, enjoying the peace and serenity of space and clean can certainly be greater than the enjoyment of purchases. Also, with purchases, there are the downsides of clutter and regret, for bad purchases. I've never watch Ms. Kond's video, but it is not rocket science; keeping things clean does not take much: - Don't buy what you don't need, and in this case, love. - Generally, upgrade your items with better, rather than accumulating more items - Make regular purges, giving away or selling old items - Enjoy the space, the openness, the serenity, that comes from avoiding clutter and consumption


@L Wolf - I still buy books, but usually after I finish them, and for anything I do buy before, I am certain I will finish. I still love books. They have meaning for me, certainly extensions of my self, so after reading something, and I would not have chosen to read it if it was not important in some way, I purchase it and put in on the shelves. Also, there is a beauty to books, in that they give space nuance, at least for me.


Marie Kondo Helped, but What About the Extra Stuff?


Honestly, the most important aspect is not purchasing bad items in the first place, but eventually, even well thought out purchases need replacement. For decades, I've followed the rule that one person's junk is another's treasure, particularly considering our very unequal world in NYC, at one time using Freecycle to give away items, eventually finding it easier to use Craigslist. For the most part, it has worked out well but depends on the item, but almost always, there are takers.

If it is electronics, there are often way too many people, so I follow a triage system. First, the ad, always with a good description and picture, requires specifying they supply a reason they need this item. It is not to be lurid or cruel, but if I am giving away an old computer, I need to know that it is going to a good cause. Yes, I could be fooled, but I try to be discerning, children, poor, disabled, etc. If there is no reason, it gets ignored. If it is simply for selfish reasons - you'd be surprised - it gets ignored. Eventually, I whittle it down to a few, the final filter is how fast they can pick it up. For lesser items, there are almost always takers, but it might take a day or two before it gets a response but even then, as long as it finds a home other than the trash, I am happy.



I have long avoided bad purchases, selling or giving anything that has outlived its purchase. For giving away items, the ones I've used:

- Porch: Literally leaving decorative items and books - if you live in a borough of Manhattan - that slowly disappear...
- Craigslist: Since there are so many people that can use hand-me-downs, within reason
- Housing Works, for larger items like furniture, books, CD's, etc., if they fail to sell on eBay or Craigslist
- Homeless shelters: I had a number of high-quality suits, but never wore them anymore except for interviews and special occasions, so cleaned half and delivered to The New York City Rescue Mission
- Friends: After purchasing a vintage desk, needed to find a home for my old Bombay Company writing desk, and friends were happy to grab that. In another, friends selling their B'lynn townhome and moving upstate took our bed, a 30-year old sleigh, when we replaced it something a bit more luxurious.


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